at the end of the day - about training

When I said in my earlier post that one who doesn't accomplish his or her original goal is a failure, I was wrong. And I didn't mean it literally. What I should've said is at the end of the day we have to ask ourselves what is really important. I mean, REALLY important. That is when we have to be brutally honest and sharply self assess and weigh the outcome together with the necessary work towards that outcome. For instance, take an average trainee who sets out to loose weight while working with a trainer for 3 months, 6 months, a year, any length of time. She works when supervised but lacks discipline and commitment on her own. She gets stronger and fitter by far, but the weight is not coming off. It's not increasing either. Is this a failure? Well, here we go! It could be! But this is the end of the day; what is really important to this person? If loosing weight was, I think she would have made a more serious commitment and wouldn've known not to waste all that time and money just to beat herself up about not loosing weight - expecting a miracle! As we say in the military: you set yourself up for failure...So, is it really the weight loss? Is that the ultimate goal, or should that be revised to, say, maintaining weight while living a comfortable and familiar lifestyle and improving overall fitness. Is that not a great goal, better than most people achieve? It certainly is! When setting a goal this person should've been more realistic and decide how much she's willing to sacrifice and how long she can actually commit to a strict discipline which may bring her the desired weight loss. And if that happened I ask, would it be something that is a life long change or a temporary triumph, one that will actually ignite an even worse self indulgence when abandoned? Because, my friends, at the end of the day the question you must answer is this: Do I want a life style change, or do I want a happy median? What can I live with? How important is this desired change to me? Are you tracking?

And now, I wow to be brutally honest with everyone when starting a program with me: if you tell me what you want and I tell you what you must do and supervise some of your work, I will not not fail you. I promise you that! But I will also not stand there trying to come with things to say when asked for why all this time has not brought the result that was promised by me. Hmmm...Now you're tracking...