when training is a waste

I had a not so good day last week when (starting at 5:30 am) one client after another was "going off", looking for reasons to blame, what else, their own failure, on me! Which, I must admit, really disheartened me and made me sad for the rest of the day. I know it shouldn't have, but I felt such an overwhelming sense of helplessness and frustration that I had to talk myself out of spiralling down with the bad mood currents. I tell you exactly why this is so sadly pathetic and why it got to me so much.

The first client is a golf fanatic, so much so, that she had set a handicap goal of "0", and she employed me as her trainer to get her stronger for her game. Than she has golf pros and other trainers with her at all times, only to improve her golf playing skills. And it's not coming along. Why? I don't know. Because she started too late, she is a sucky player, or just doesn't have what it takes. Is a "0" handicap a reasonable goal, anyway, I ask you? Hell no...but I am to blame for her lack of improvement. I am not doing "my job". Ok, that was just out of the realm of reality and I had to let it go. I have, now...let it go. Give me a break, Ms. Cookoo!

The next one is an overweight, overindulging, fun loving, fun fellow whom I enjoyed training from day one. It's been almost 6 months, on and off, with a few breaks here and there and the weight is not coming off. It's not going anywhere. He has gained a lot of strength and some stamina but the weight...? Hm, it's sticking. Why? Because this painful and dreadful workout is not working. So why continue? If someone works with a trainer twice a week and sometimes even less, not doing anything at all on his own and having the nightly cocktails and good dinners and parties and so forth, what am I supposed to accomplish without having him on a crack diet? What indeed? Is it reaaaaaaaaaaaaly my shortcoming or his lack of commitment and work? How does one measure success?

My point here is that if I am hired to help someone attain a specific goal and he or she doesn't get there I would like that person to honestly evaluate all of the factors going into the process, STARTING WITH THEMSELVES, that goes something like this:

Am I eating well, keeping to a smart nutrition, one that is parallel with my goals?
Am I doing MY homework and the additional work I am not paying this person to do with me?
Am I sleeping enough?
Am I consistent with all of the above AND my training?

Now, why is that trainer not giving me a proper workout? Is my program kaka? Is my trainer and idiot?

Thank you, and good bye. Start with the mirror, people, and don't freakin' lie to yourself, I am not in the business of indulging sorry people. I am NOT the failure, YOU ARE! And until you realize that, not me, not your mom, not your dog, no one can help you get better, you are ultimately in charge of your results and I am a damned good aid to get you there - if you keep up.

Woooooh!